Want to improve? Admit you suck.

It’s not a secret I play World of Warcraft. I look at a lot of PvP movies because I want to improve in that area. There is a PvP movie that is perfect to explain the point of this article. A guy makes a video series called I Suck at PvP. He plays a Mage and he shows how he loses a fight (approximately 5:30 into the video), explains what he did wrong, then does the fight again (fixing what he did wrong) and shows a successful fight (against opponents he shouldn’t be able to win against). Evertras has this basic approach when he starts a fight:

  • You can win every fight.
  • If you lose it’s your fault, not the game.
  • Don’t beat yourself up over losing.
  • Look back at the fight that was just lost. What could you have done differently.

Can he really win every fight? No, but he has an optimistic (and realistic) attitude. If he is up against an opponent that is better geared than he is, odds are he will lose but the reality: he could have had equal gear. Who’s fault is it that he doesn’t? Instead of beating himself up over it, he’ll grind to get better gear (if he is under geared), see what else he could improve from the mistakes he made, and try again.

Wouldn’t it be lovely if we could do that with life? When something doesn’t work, see why it failed, then do it again? We can…

Of course, it means learning from our experiences and other people’s experiences.

You can’t go back and redo the past (that’s important to note – what’s done is done) but it is possible to make sure the mistakes from the past don’t re-appear in the future. I don’t play a Mage in WoW but I suck at PvP. Yeah I said it, I suck at PvP. Admitting it is one of the first things I need to do to correct the situation.

Instead of whining like a little bitch that my character won’t do what I want it to do.

The other (harder) part is putting in the time and effort needed to correct the situation. Hahaha, it means losing for a while to win the bigger battles later. I can’t put into words how much I hate to lose but a girl has to do what a girl has to do. Tyme wants to be a PvP Queen so I have work to do.

What Does This Mean to You?

No one is perfect, there is always room for improvement. Many times the opportunity is there to avoid a situation from happening if one would open their eyes to what happened previously (or to others) and correct the situation. If you have a blog on technology, you’ve had it for over a year, you submit your entries to Reddit, etc. and your articles never make it to the front page is it because the Reddit community is “mean” or your articles aren’t as good as the others submitted that day?

If you want to start a business and your main competition admitted that although successful, they would have went in a different direction, why would you start a business following the same path the competition took without safe-guarding against those hurdles?

If you know people are getting fired for the things they put online for public consumption, why would you put yourself (potentially) in the same position?

Just like in PvP, the people who win the fight think smarter (and yes, take advantage of their opponent’s weakness). In life those who succeed think smarter (and don’t repeat mistakes they are already aware of).