We Are Our Choices: Making Positive Changes in Your Life

Changing your perspective from negativity to positivity.

Remember when you thought of a cool idea with the excitement children have? You woke up thinking about it and went to sleep thinking about it. During the day you couldn’t stop yourself from trying to figure out how to make the ideas in your head come to life. The “idea” could be a hobby, a career, a relationship or a desired object like wanting to buy a house. Remember those times?

I used to be like that about gaming. I decided to share my gaming journey. With a ridiculous amount of excitement, I started writing gaming articles. My sites began to blow up, turning into businesses. I closed them when my mother was diagnosed with cancer, so I could focus on her. After she died, I missed sharing my gaming journey. I started uploading gaming videos on YouTube. I was in my happy place.

Things Changed

YouTube changed 1,283,845 times, making it challenging for content creators to peacefully upload content. YouTube’s ContentID system makes it easy to receive false claims. It wasn’t copyright issues so much because I don’t play music in the games I uploaded, and I had permission to upload them. I found myself jumping through hoops for “invisible” advertisers. I didn’t know who they were, and they weren’t my target audience. Not like they were the ones watching my videos, right? I realized I moved away from making the content I wanted to make trying to appease advertisers. The content that made me happy.

Youthful enthusiasm — dead.

We’ve all gone through something like this, right? After you’ve been burnt, when you come up with a cool idea the “youthful excitement” is replaced with “what crap will come up and how can I avoid it?”. Often, the cool idea dies in a fiery death before it had a chance to be successful or fail because it was never started in the first place.

I realized I was in that negative headspace.


It’s easy to slip into a negative headspace this year. 2020 has been The Year of Truth for me. I opened my eyes, accepted the facts and changed my perspective. I refuse to be delusional.

  • People are going to act responsibly, so this pandemic can end! No.
  • Racism is decreasing! Hell no.
  • Discrimination is decreasing! Nope.
  • Sexual abuse is going down! Um…no.
  • Businesses care about their customers…😂😂😂 I can’t even finish this one.

The list is long. I decided, in the middle of all this chaos, it was time for a change. It’s not like I stopped having the “cool ideas”. I didn’t. I talked myself out of doing anything with those ideas, thinking of all the things that could happen.

What if I change the word “idea” to “opportunity”? I enjoy sharing my gameplay because I connect with intelligent, like-minded people. I always learn something new. Why not focus on connecting with intelligent, like-minded people and learning something new? That’s a whole new level of opportunities.

Turning Negatives into Positives

For example, a new game seems like fun. An idea pops into my mind for videos around it. Immediately, YouTube’s algorithm and hoop jumping come to mind. It’s automatic now, but what if I move past that and think of the opportunities that appeal to me if I continue?

I could write articles and bypass YouTube all together (which is appealing to me more and more lately). Smaller videos, uploaded to YouTube, would reduce the likelihood of the algorithm falsely flagging my videos. Yes, it could hinder the growth of my channel because YouTube likes longer videos (to show more ads). Do I care? Not anymore. Why? It’s not about YouTube. It’s about what makes me happy.

What if I share my experience after finishing the game with bits of gameplay, more like a podcast? Ironically, that is what I used to do in the past. Instead of people waiting for me to finish a game or watching me play through it, I can intelligently talk about what I learned, liked, or disliked.

Do you see what I did? Instead of focusing on not doing something or the problems that might arise, I focused on what I could do that would make me happy. The change in perspective caused the floodgates of creativity to burst open with the desire to do something new.

The choice is mine. Sometimes, we forget we have options.

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