How Do You Know When a Man Loves You? There’s one story that always comes to mind when I think about this question. It’s not mine—but it’s unforgettable.
The Story of TotalBiscuit and His Wife
TotalBiscuit met his wife in 2005. At the time, he lived in the UK. She lived in the US. In 2007, he moved to the US to live with her, and they got married in the UK. For a while, he was on a visa-waiver program, flying back and forth every few months. They didn’t have much money, but they were making it work.
In 2008, they planned to meet at BlizzCon. But Homeland Security denied him entry. They claimed something was wrong with his visa—saying he entered the US through Mexico, which wasn’t true. Even though he could prove otherwise, he was still blocked from entering the US.
As a result, he hadn’t seen his wife in person more than twice in two years. He hadn’t seen his stepson since 2008. He was doing everything he could to raise the money and fix the legal situation. The stress from that process made him physically ill.
But here’s what matters:
- He didn’t give up.
- He didn’t say, “There’s several thousand miles between us, so let’s end this.”
- He didn’t say, “I can’t have sex when I want it, so we’re done.”
And neither did she.
He loved his wife. He loved his kid. He wanted to be with them as a family. She wanted the same. So they were working together to make it happen. Period.
Although he’s no longer with us, the way he loved his wife continues to resonate with many of us.
Love Doesn’t Hide
When a man loves you, you don’t have to ask. That’s the answer. Simple, but true.
Love shows itself through action. It’s not about buying expensive gifts. It’s not about being glued together 24/7. But when a man is in love, you don’t wonder where you stand. You know. He shows up. He invests time. He builds a future with you in mind.
If you’re in a relationship where you’re constantly asking yourself whether or not he loves you… that’s already your answer.
Long Distance Isn’t the Problem—Disinterest Is
A lot of people dismiss long-distance relationships. They say it’s not realistic, that it’s too hard. But distance is not the problem. A lack of commitment is. When two people truly love each other, they find a way. They make plans. They endure. They work through obstacles together.
What TotalBiscuit and his wife had wasn’t easy, but it was real.
Some Relationships Aren’t Meant to Last
Not every relationship falls apart because of distance or logistics. Sometimes, two people just aren’t right for each other. When there’s constant arguing, emotional confusion, and a never-ending cycle of breaking up and making up, that’s not passion—that’s dysfunction. That’s a personality clash.
Love doesn’t thrive in chaos. Love grows in stability, respect, and care.
If They Loved You, You’d Know
Love doesn’t make you feel small. It doesn’t make you guess. It doesn’t make you change who you are just to keep someone else happy. If someone loves you, they’ll want you to be your full self—flaws, growth, and all. As long as the flaws are not toxic because you wouldn’t want to be toxic to the person you love, right?
And if they’re unsure, distant, or inconsistent? That’s not love. That’s someone keeping one foot out the door.
People change. Life moves forward. But if you’re hanging on to what someone used to be instead of what they’re showing you now… you’re in love with a memory, not a person.
In the End…
When you’re in a healthy relationship with someone who truly loves you, you know it. You might not be rich. You might be facing problems. But one thing you won’t have to worry about is whether you have each other.
Love is a journey. And when you find someone who wants to walk that journey beside you—you don’t question it.
Because when a man loves you, questioning his love isn’t even on the table.
And if you’re asking… deep down, you probably already know the answer.
📌 Changelog
- April 16, 2025: Article re-written to streamline it. Added TotalBiscuit is no longer with us.
- May 5, 2011: Original article posted.
