As you evolve, learning life lessons and gaining wisdom, you change. I think we all have people in our lives that we were close to once upon a time, but lost touch with over the years. You know what I’m talking about. The people you aren’t enthusiastic about seeing, don’t share the same interests with anymore — these are natural changes. The opposite is true too: allowing people to stay in your life that who make you unhappy. I used to struggle with this until I realized how self-sabotaging it was. I decided something needed to be done.
Eventually, I accepted the fact that some people are inherently toxic. There are those who don’t realize the effect they have on others, and some who are completely aware of their toxicity and get enjoyment out of making others suffer. I finally removed those toxic “friends” from my life, and I’ve never been happier. With regard to my other group of friends, the ones I fell out of sync with, I decided to quietly distance myself. No fights, no drama, just a natural parting of the ways. No awkwardness if we cross paths. I’ve even hung out with them online once in a while, only to be reminded I made the right decision. The interesting tidbit: each time after we interacted with one another, things went back to “distanced mode” without me doing anything because it’s supposed to be that way. Some people are around for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
This philosophy can be applied to other areas of your life. More workers are leaving their jobs because their priorities have changed. They want better pay, more opportunities for advancement, the option to work from home, and to work for someone/a company that reflects their morals and values. A lot of people are canceling their Netflix subscription because they’re cutting costs due to inflation, or they’re not happy with the content the streaming service has been releasing. Some users are peeling back on how often they use social media because they’re more aware of how these platforms can impact mental health.
Speaking of social media, I changed how I use and read social media. The vibe I was seeing in my social media feeds no longer clicked with me. Realizing it was time to change who and what I followed online, I wanted a more balanced feed. I made sure to add things, like kittens and puppies. Randomly, throughout the day, I smile when I see them in my feed. I didn’t realize how wonderful it is to get a mood boost throughout the day, especially after a long meeting or reading a depressing news story.
Once you start doing this, you’ll naturally take steps to being your true authentic self.